Hmm, I may be confused by your question, but here goes anyway.
Strobes don't directly help the camera focus, unless you are using the modelling light feature that the DS125 has. I don't think the AF35 has this feature though.
Indirectly, strobes can assist with focus because they enable you to use a small aperture for a particular shot, which gives you greater depth of field, i.e. more of your shot in focus.
Some cameras do use their own flash to provide some light to enable their autofocus to operate in low light situations, but an external underwater strobe will ignore this activity, and will only fire when you actually take the shot, by which time the focussing (for better or worse) is all over.
If your camera is struggling to focus there are a couple of things you can do:
- ensure you pre-focus your shots - half press the shutter until the camera gets a focus lock. If the lock is not on what you want to photograph, recompose the shot and try again.
- use a focus light or the modelling light feature of your strobe. You can use a standard dive torch as a focus light, but the problem with these is that they don't turn off when the actual shot is being taken, and can result in hot spots in the resulting image. The modelling light on the DS125 turns off when the strobe triggers, so causes no problems.
The AF35 is designed to be very easy to use (at least as easy as an underwater strobe can be), so it may suit you better than the DS125, but it doesn't have the same power, and probably doesn't have the same coverage. You may well be better of persevering with the DS125.
Just my 4c worth!