1) I need a great product recommendation for strobe arms - that stay put!
Hi Wander, I studied your question about a year ago and ended up with the ULCS arms and clamps. I love them. Rock solid. I hear that the TLC are also good but I can't verify personally.
2) Can someone give me strobe placement recommendations for wide angle shots with my fisheye port? Where should I direct my strobes? How far from the port should they be?
This is a tougher question. What do you want to do with the light? I 'm far from an expert, but I can try to help. I spent a few hours in the pool playing with the strobe position on my setup with my new YS 250s and the 10mm end of the Tokina. My baseline was to try and find the position that provided a balanced, even light on a pool wall a meter, and two meters out. I found that the place I want to start, ( my jump setting) is both strobes positioned even with the housing vertically, about 38 cm or 15 inches outboard from the lens. Main thing was to move them aft so the front of the strobes was behind the port joint to avoid the hot spot/ backscatter. I also point them outboard about 15 degrees, depending on how close the subject is to the port. This seems to work pretty well for midwater or reef scenics, It can look too flat to some folks, You can adjust the power on one strobe to bring it down or point it more directly to bring it up to create more shadows and feeling of depth. If your trying to get an image of a subject on the bottom, I 'd move the strobes up and aim them roughly straight ahead. There is a lifetime of study possible on all the variations and for me that is one of the joys of digital. I can really play with the light now.
I can see now I'm making this too hard. Let me try to summarize. Get the strobes behind the front of the housing pointed outboard a little. That's better, try that and see how it goes. Here is a shot from Bonaire where I was trying to see how much light the 250s would give me. In the vertical format, the strobes are at 10 and 5 on the clock.

See how the lower fish's face is a little too hot because he was closer. If I had dialed down the strobe the column wouldn't have been evenly lit. Notice the shadow behind the top fish and a not so obvious shadow for the lower one? Where the strobe's light cones intersect can give you some interesting affects you hadn't counted on. I still have a lot to learn. 
3) How about some strobe placement advice for 60mm macro shots?
I start with the strobes tucked in next to the housing, aimed straight ahead, about even vertically with the viewfinder then go from there. This one is with balanced strobes with the 100mm

See how this little guy is balanced from both sides, (dual 110's by the way) (Next time I'll see if I can get his tail in the frame)
It would have been a very different image with different strobe powers or positions or using one strobe. In the end I think it all depends on what you want the light to do for you. 
Hoped that helped a little. Have fun with it.
Steve