Here's how it's SUPPOSED to work:
Calibrate your monitor buy buying a calibrator, software, and using it.
Install your printer and make sure you have the correct profile for the printer, ink and paper you are using.
In whatever program you are using, you "proof" the image and the photo program will apply the printer profile. It will show that the image actually isn't as bright and smooth as you thought it was going to be...:-) But the colors will be matched to what will come out if you hit "print." If you don't like what you see, make adjustments and proof it again, etc.
Cheers
James