I never dive near wrecks, but I am around rocks a lot, lobster diving, diving out of small inflatables, beach diving, just generally using my gear hard. A normal wetsuit lasts me around 3 years. I had a drysuit made out of normal neoprene, and it didn't last much longer, even though I was careful with it. It developed a lot of leaks, started having seam trouble, and generally got stiff and uncomfortable. Guess I'm hard on gear.
I'm getting very serious about another drysuit, gonna get one soon, i hope. I'm set on getting one from DUI, mostly because I am close to them and factory service will be easy, so I guess my first advice would be to get one from a local maker, or at least find out how easily it can be serviced.
Friends of mine bought DUI suits. DUI pretty commonly shows up at scuba shows and events. My friends went to their booth set on getting the crushed neoprene, since it's so bulletproof and they wanted a suit that lasts forever. The DUI folks talked them out of crushed neoprene and convinced them that for their kind of diving -non wreck - the trilam was plenty tough, very light for travel, and dried quickly. It can also be turned inside out for airing. My old neoprene suit really smelled. I built a rack for it out of PVC that would hold it upside down, with pipe run into the legs, with air forced into the feet, to try to dry it.
Anyway, I'm pretty set on a tri-lam dui, but that mostly confirms what other people have said - you buy what people around you have bought.
I am curious about one thing, though. I don't understand how a flooded tri-lam suit (or any suit, really) is heavier. Water is neutrally buoyant. A bucket of water underwater might be massive, might have inertia, might have drag, but heavy I don't get. It seems like you'd have trouble swimming, but that your BC would lift you (perhaps very slowly at first). Not trying to start an argument, just looking for clarification.